HONESTY: Is on the top of the desired qualities list, that men and women “seek”. They want someone “honest”, “compassionate”, “trustworthy”…… blah blah blah.
BULLSHIT. <—– That was me calling it.
Men do NOT want a woman capable of unadulterated honesty. It is too intimidating. Being “honest” means that it is not possible to give a single fuck less what anyone thinks. You speak your mind, you answer a question as you believe it should be answered, you behave the way that you would whether or whether not someone is looking. You are fully in your natural habitat no matter where you go, or who you are with. You say what you think and believe. Nothing is held back. It gets uncomfortable at times, for others who are not yet emotionally available to be that comfortable with themselves. You serve shock for dessert, because someone cannot believe you just said “THAT!”.
Now here is the problem with this:
From a distance, people are intrigued. They stand in awe of your confidence. You are someone they must know. They long to be enraptured by you, so they take a few steps in your direction and proceed with caution. They sweat bullets, because anything at anytime may come out of your mouth (NOTE: There is a difference between honesty and contempt. Being downright rude and disrespectful is a NO NO.) People in general have a need to be accepted. They desire and long for your acceptance…..
Please take a moment to look at the above picture. What that picture is saying is: When someone is a liar, they are adored. When someone is honest, the allure of it all dissipates and turns to vapor.
Men do NOT want a woman who is honest. They want someone who is “kinda” honest. They want deceit, although they will not tell you that. They NEED that mystery. They NEED to feel like they are in the process of that big hunt….for as long as it takes. And she will eventually turn to radical honesty. She will drop that guard, filet herself wide open for his viewing pleasure, for him to do with it as he will. Only the truth will eventually pass over her lips. No more deceit, no more lies. It will be just her in her entirety, offering herself up to him for judgement. And……
There it is folks. A majority of the time, he will find her unsuitable. She stopped the hunt. He captured her. He rejects her. WHY? Because once one of these assholes has captured her….he has absolutely NO idea what to do with her. Game over.
When she becomes 100% honest, he thinks she is 100% crazy. He will go and tell his friends about his “Crazy” girlfriend, or wife.She isn’t afraid to ask the right questions. She is no longer afraid of confrontation. She wants to live in a world where they are honest with each other.
Unfortunately, for her, he forgot to tell her that he needs a part-time liar. The 100% truth is not acceptable.
Men do not want honesty when they are cultivating their relationships. They need that fantasy and mystique. They need to be lied to. This is the hard part for women like myself. I am incapable of telling others what they need to hear. You ask a question. I answer the question. You act like a weirdo. I ask why you are acting like a weirdo. *SIGH* The world is not yet ready for Radical Honesty.